Wednesday, January 2, 2019

How to Support Someone Who is on a Weight Loss Journey


Here is my advice to anyone who has a friend, family member or significant other who is on a weight loss journey on how to support them through their journey. I'm going to break this down into five different points that I see as the most important when supporting someone on their weight loss journey.

1). Be Sensitive to Their Weight Problem
A lot of people who are overweight or obese are insecure about their weight whether they are willing to admit it or not. Make sure that you watch the way that you speak about their weight. Obviously, we all know that you need to be kind and respectful no matter what. But it is also important to watch the words and language you use so that you don't accidentally offend them. I'm not saying to feel like you are walking on eggshells but more so don't comment on their appearance. Like don't say they look fat, or they are fat. In fact, maybe stray away from using the word fat. Try to be careful with the way you word things.

2). Show Some Tough Love
If someone is going on a diet, make sure that you hold them accountable. If they are saying they aren't going to eat any sugar or fast food, hold them to it. Don't let them slip. Remember that it is important to do what the person needs, not what they want. Even if they aren't happy with the fact that you are holding them accountable, they will thank you later once they reach their goals.

3). Make Sure They Know You Are Proud of Them
Make sure that they know how proud you are of them when they lose 5 pounds, 10 pounds, 20 pounds. Heck, even 2 pounds is a great accomplishment! Constantly remind them how proud you are of them because this will keep them motivated to keep going!

4). If You Were Never Obese or Overweight Yourself, Don't Say You Know What They Are Going Through
If you have never had to lose weight in your life, don't say that you understand how someone who does have to lose weight feels. Because you don't know how they feel. If you have never been in their shoes, it is important to simply recognize that and admit it. We can see that you are just trying to help but we can see how fake this whole attitude of "I know exactly how you feel" is. One thing that pisses me and a lot of people off so much is people who have never lost weight in their life trying to give us advice on how to do it. We appreciate your support but be honest with us and say, "I haven't been through this before so I don't understand. I am not here to give advice, I am here to listen and support you." Now if you have been on a weight loss journey, you obviously can understand how we feel so this one doesn't really apply to you.

5). Remind them of their reasons for losing weight 
Maybe your friend wants to be more confident when going on dates. Maybe he or she wants to be able to do their job better because their job requires them to be in good shape. Maybe he or she is pre-diabetic and needs to lose weight for their health. No matter what the reason is, any reason to lose weight is a valid reason. Remind of these reasons so that they can stay motivated. It is easy to get into the mindset of "screw it, what's the point of this?" when losing weight. They need to be reminded that the discomfort they are feeling is worth the reward. I can say confidently that my life has completely changed since losing 70 pounds. Yours will too!

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